I did say I’d end up talking about it so let’s not be too scandalised here! I’ve been trying to break into the world of comfortably and casually talking about sex on my blog but I didn’t know how to so naturally, I just went ahead and did it!
I watch the likes of Hannah Witton and Melanie Murphy on YouTube, both of whom I think are fantastic women and I seriously need to get round to buying their books! Of the many many things that are amazing about them, they both comfortably speak about sex and all sex related things without the awkwardness. In a way I think sex should be talked about anyway, because it is normal and shouldn’t be considered as something taboo or even life changing. You won’t become a whole new person just because you had sex, trust me. Nor will anyone notice!
Sex can be a wonderful experience that you share with someone, it doesn’t have to be someone you’ve been in a relationship with for years if you don’t want it to be. Consent is key and please wait til you’re of legal age… On that note, just because you are of legal age doesn’t mean you have to have sex asap. Even if it feels great (?) to be able to say you’ve had sex, eventually you might regret rushing into just because it felt like everyone else was doing it. Some people are well into their 20s, 30s and beyond because they haven’t found someone they want to experience that with. And some people just don’t bother with it at all because it isn’t their jam, either way it’s all good.
Another tidbit of advice, I wouldn’t have high hopes for your first time. I highly doubt there will be fireworks going off in the background and if there were I’d be slightly worried about where it is that you’re having sex….
Not all first time experiences are always horrific but because you’re just a tad inexperienced and if this is also your partner’s first time then you both have some fumbling around to do! Which just adds to the experience if I’m being honest, if you can find someone you can fumble (and fail with) and be able to laugh about it after (or even during!) then I think you’ve still had a successful experience!
There’s far more to this conversation that what I’ve merely outlined here, there will be more posts to come! Feel free to ask questions/leave ideas in the comments, on twitter or on Instagram! If I can answer them or write a post about them then I definitely will!
Until next time 🙂