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Post exams!

HELLO EVERYONE

It feels good to blogging once again without exams looming over my tired head! I had my last exam today and it went decently I think but I’ll find out just how decently on results day. Anyhow, with blogging, I’m not sure if I’ll go back to having a schedule? I’ll just post as and when I feel like it (More regularly of course) until school starts and then I’ll start up a schedule so that I can keep track of everything.

I have many ideas buzzing around that I’ll try to get into soon! Some of which will be about my holiday this summer, possibly about my first tattoo when I get it, the new lifestyle I’m trying to lead and much more!! I can’t wait to get stuck into my blog again, I changed the theme of it a while back and I think I quite like it. It’s much cleaner I feel, do you agree?

Spencer is also doing great by the way, I know I haven’t really mentioned her since I got her! We’re getting closer and she’s now jumping up at me for pets!

Honestly I think that’s all I’ve got to say for now!

Until next time 🙂

Venturing into a better life

Going vegan & Becoming a minimalist

So the past few days I’ve been really getting into Madeleine Olivia’s videos on YouTube, which I would highly recommend by the way, and she talks about minimalism and veganism. Two things that intrigued me but seemed unreachable at this point in life. As I’m still living at home and all.

But now I feel like I can maybe still achieve them, I realised I’m a very all or nothing kind of person which isn’t the most useful mindset to have sometimes. It would make more sense to start slowly, build up better habits and be far more likely to succeed. Instead of throwing myself into it all and more than likely fail because I couldn’t keep up with such a massive change in lifestyle.

At first I was trying to think of a way to encompass being a vegan and a minimalist into one word because they seem interlinked if you’re considering the environmental side of things, which I am. But I didn’t know how to so we’ll stick with just saying both the names until I come to a better idea. So here’s a quick break down of what I’m planning on doing, I’ll probably have more detailed posts going up about the individual topics later on.

 

So first with minimalism I’d just like to clarify, when I say minimalism I don’t mean the aesthetic of all white homes with barely anything in them. I just mean living a slightly less cluttered life, with fewer useless possessions taking up space that I don’t have. Plus, a large part of it for me is helping the environment. Buying less stuff =  creating less waste. Simple really!

My main aim is to attempt to reduce how much plastic I throw away because I’m sure all of you have heard one thing or another about how much plastic is in our seas and the horrific effects it’s having on marine life. It shocked me when I realised just how much plastic we use and dispose of every single day. So I’m hoping to take steps to reduce that, more to come on that. I’ve also heard a lot about fast fashion and its less than ideal impact which I will try to write a post about in the future, that’s a whole other story that I don’t fully have the resources to delve into right now.

I’ve already filled a large box full of my stuff that I plan to donate, I will be writing a post about in the near future I’m sure. It was such a freeing experience and I don’t think I’ve ever gotten rid of that much stuff in one go before!

And then, becoming a vegan. *gasp* I’ve gotten negative reactions before when I’ve mentioned that I wanted to go vegan but they hardly bother me now. I’m becoming more and more aware of the issues within the farming industry, and the huge impact it has on the environment. Going vegan will just be my own little way of helping the earth. I don’t have all my aims and goals set out for this one just yet, but it’s something I’ll be working on soon!

I don’t think I’ll be having a blogging schedule for a while, I still have exams and all but I’ve been feeling inspired which was really needed so I’ll post when I can!

Until next time 🙂

For the wrong reasons

Hello there, I know it’s been a while since I’ve been around these parts. But I’m back for a bit, not permanently though because of my looming exams.
But I’ve been thinking about how I’ve been unknowingly stressing about this blog instead of enjoying it like I used to. And by used to I mean before I went self hosted, I’ve been worrying about trying to make back the money that’s been put into self hosting that I wasn’t even enjoying my blog anymore. But I realise now that I’ve been stressing and so I’m working to rectify that and go back to enjoying my blog without thinking about making money from it. Which isn’t the easiest thing to do when your blog is barely 7 months old anyway!
I have until November to decide whether I want to renew my self hosting and domain fees but until then I’m hoping to enjoy blogging instead of turning into the job I never wanted. As much as I enjoy blogging, I never really wanted to turn it into a full time job. I can’t see myself enjoying a stay at home blogger job and I’m not sure why I started to think I wanted that just because I went self hosted. Sure I wouldn’t mind getting some money but a full on salary was never the goal.
So maybe I will go back to being WordPress hosted or maybe I’ll stay self hosted, either way I will be continuing on with my little blog. And enjoying it.
Until next time (which will probably be around midway through June)

Don’t speak ill of others, or yourself

In one of my posts early last month, this one, I talked about how I have grown to be more positive over the years. I briefly mentioned how not gossiping about other people can really have an impact so I thought this week I’d go into more depth about it.

While I still think it’s healthy to vent to a trusted person about someone who has hurt you, I don’t think it’s healthy to continuously do so for a long period of time to just anyone who will listen. I’m SO guilty of this, I went on and on about a friendship break up I had for a year after it had happened and it took me a while to realise how unnecessary I was being. Instead of letting that wound heal I just kept opening it up over and over again. A key thing here is that no one told me I was being unnecessary, while I may have been repetitive it was still an interesting thing for people to listen in on. Everyone likes a bit of drama. It’s not like anything I was saying was new, people had heard it all before, there is only so much to a story and there’s no need to tire out all the details. The people I had this “break up” with were seemingly fine and carrying on with their lives. I just needed to get over myself. So I did, because there’s nothing left to talk about.

In general, being bitter about someone else’s life choices will rarely ever make yours better. Nor does it make you a better person. So what if that girl in your maths class like to sleep with a different guy every week? So what if that guy likes to be really extra with his revision? What does it even matter to you? If you spend all your time watching other people’s lives, you’ll just be wasting your own.

But, you can’t just gossip by yourself now can you? Watch what kind of people you hang around with, they’re the ones that influence you to bitch about people. Not just friends mind you, family too, my mum often talks about people negatively and I regularly have to call her out on it. Not that she enjoys it.

Something else I’ve noticed, it’s all well and good not talking smack about other people. But nothing will ever be more damaging than talking like that about yourself. People harp on about not talking about other people, but having positive self talk is the best thing you could ever do for yourself. If you start building this habit, it’s far less likely that you’ll be kicking yourself when you’re already down. Or alternatively, it’ll mean that you’re far less likely to take what bitter people say about you to heart.

Challenge yourself, maybe just for a day, or perhaps even a week, don’t allow yourself to say negative things about someone else or yourself. You’ll be surprised by how often you’ll catch yourself, I definitely was and still am. Do I still think these things? Absolutely! But there’s no real need for me to be giving off that type of negative energy. It’s not an easy thing to do but you’d be proud of yourself for trying!

Please do tweet, comment or dm me what you think of all of this! Have you tried this? Or, even better, are you going to give it a go?

Until next time 🙂

My new bunny!

So if any of you follow me on instagram/twitter (which you totally should be, @wolfishdelight on both) you will have seen me telling you about my new rabbit! So naturally I thought I’d write a post about her!

So, I named her Spencer and yes it was after Spencer Hastings from PLL. I get most of my name inspiration from TV show characters. I was gonna call her either Spencer or Rosa, as in Rosa Diaz from Brooklyn nine nine. But Spencer seemed to fit her better because she is quite the smarty pants! Her breed is Dutch and she’s just gone 3 months old. I would insert pictures but I don’t have many good ones yet, keep an eye on my Instagram, I’m sure she’ll appear on there soon!

Update: I got a nice picture of her this morning so here ya go!

Lil Dutch black and white bunny

I’m keeping her in a pet enclosure, the kind that’s made up of metal panels and are hooked together to make a square/hexagon/octagon, you get the idea. I currently have it as a hexagon but I might try to make it bigger, if I can make the space in my room. I read enough about how store bought cages aren’t enough for rabbits and I was not about to keep her outside in a hutch either.

I got her after school on Friday 23rd March, and it only took her a few hours to start to get settled in. She was coming up to the panels of her enclosure and sticking her nose out to smell my hands! Then Saturday morning she woke me up nice and early at 6:30am by running around her enclosure (clearly she has enough room then!) and banging into the panels because she was hungry. I fed her and then I decided to give something new a go. I got a cushion and sat down in-front of the enclosure door and opened it up to see how she’d react.

She certainly wasn’t shy! She jumped right out and has been exploring my room. We’ve gotten some bonding in and she’s been peeing and pooping everywhere but I’m sure we’ll figure out! I’ve even managed to get her to let me stroke her which is pretty great considering I’ve only had her for a few days.

I think that’s mostly all I’ve got on Spencer for now, I’ll definitely be writing more posts about her/rabbit care in the future!

Until next time 🙂

Keeping your vagina healthy

For the most part, your vagina takes care of itself. Pretty convenient huh? But there are still ways that you can help out, quite important things too! Here are my current top tips to take care of your vagina:

PEE AFTER SEX!!

I personally have never had a UTI but the things I have heard about it are unpleasant to say the least. This is after all kinds of sex. Oral, penetration, digital (fingering etc.) Peeing after sex means that any bacteria that may have gotten into your urethra get flushed out before any damage is done. I.e the painful burning peeing experience you’ll have.

Don’t wear pants to bed

It is a bit weird to start off with, and even a few weeks on but it’s good for your vagina! By not wearing pants to bed you’re allowing a few hours of proper breathing time for your vagina. Warm, moist places are perfect breeding grounds for bacteria so by allowing your vagina to breathe freely, you’re reducing the likelihood of an infection occurring.

Skip the soap

Like I said at the start, your vagina does a pretty good job of taking care of itself. That includes cleaning! Your vagina is very capable of cleaning itself and you putting soaps and extra water down there isn’t helping anyone. In fact it’s doing the opposite, messing with the pH of your vagina can lead to infections. So lets just let it do its thing.

That’s all I’ve got for now, until next time 🙂

 

Being 17

Being 16 is cool and all but for me 17 years old and above was where it was at, maybe it was because all the protagonists in the books I read happened to be 17. So I’ve been 17 for a while now but I realised something while at my friend’s 18th birthday party. She had some family round and I’ve known her forever so of course I was there with my family too.

And when I got home I realised something, when I was younger and I had grown past the age of just wanting to run around with all the other little kids at parties, I always looked up at the older teenagers and how they looked good with their makeup all done, in their nice outfits, how the adults would treat them less like kids. I aspired to be like that and I just couldn’t wait until I looked like my own version of that, to look and feel like an adult. Well, closer to it than how you feel in your preteen years anyway.

Coming home from my friend’s party, I realised I had reached that point in life! I came home and looked in the mirror at myself with my straightened hair, nice makeup and swishy outfit and there she was. As much as being 17 is stressful, with exams, planning out my future endeavours in education and all of that; I have grown up quite a bit and it is being recognised by actual adults. It’s a wild concept to say the least and I think 11 year old me would be proud of my eye shadow skills.

I don’t know if I’ve articulated how I’m feeling all that accurately, but this is as good as it’s gonna get! Have any of you guys felt like this?

Until next time! 🙂

 

Growing to be more positive

If any of you had met me a few years ago, you would’ve labelled me a cynic. Which, believe it or not, was what I was going for. I wanted to be cynical, sarcastic, intimidating and seemingly unfeeling. All the things you would associate with the broody male love interest in a YA book.

I’m not entirely sure why I wanted to be like that, maybe it’s because I didn’t want to be anything like the more bubbly girls so I decided throwing myself onto the opposite end of the spectrum was the best idea. In my mind, being positive and kind meant you would easily get walked all over. Which of course, isn’t true.

So I spent up until I was about 15/16 trying to fit into this broody, angsty image of myself I had in my mind. I didn’t do very well. Then depression hit and I was not having a fun time, as you can imagine. Year 12 wasn’t any better because I was severely struggling to keep my head above the water. Then results day rolled around, I had unsurprisingly failed AS chemistry and it was the best thing that could’ve happened to me.

I feel like once I found out I failed chem, my mental health has only gotten better and I’m so much more positive than I have ever been in my life. Sure staying an extra year in sixth form isn’t ideal but it isn’t the worst that could’ve happened. I could’ve continued to struggle majorly with chemistry for another year, get bad grades, not get into the unis I wanted and end up in a much worse state of mind. Plus, having another year to think about my future and all has made me realise that psychology is not for me; I have no idea what drug I was on when I decided that was going to be a thing.

Being positive isn’t easy, but it’s worth the extra effort.

  • Try not to gossip (read: bitch) about people and see how your life changes.
  • Try to see the good in a situation, eg I failed chem but that means I don’t have to struggle through those lessons feeling useless anymore!
  • Stop comparing you, your situation etc to other people. Your story isn’t their story, get it together and better your own life instead of longing after someone else’s.
  • If you don’t need involve yourself in the drama then don’t, you’d be surprised how often you don’t need to

A favourite quote of mine is “Be better not bitter” because it’s simple and straight to the point. Being bitter isn’t going to get you anywhere, you’ll just be in the same place while everyone else who you’re so bitter about moves past you and onto a more successful life.

Growth is key in life. It doesn’t matter what age you are or how smart you think you are, you will always have some growing and learning to do.

Until next time 🙂

Me vs clothes sizes

*There is a lot of mention of body sizes, clothes sizes etc please don’t read this if you’re not comfortable with that*

So I have been a size 10 in clothes for a while, maybe since I was 14/15? I’m currently 17, and I now fit more into size 12s and 14s. When I first started buying size 12 clothes in shops I wasn’t too bothered because it wasn’t very often that I needed them, and after all it was only one size bigger than usual. Then I started shopping for clothes online, and I was already a bit sceptical of the sizing so I measured myself and used the size guide charts because size 10 on one site is a size 8 or 12 on another.

I quickly found that according to a few sites, I was a size 14. This was for a skirt btw. So I was like well ok then and I bought the skirt, it’s now my favourite skirt and I wear it very frequently! I was in primark last week and I got some mom mum jeans, in a size 12, I wasn’t completely sure whether it would fit but I thought I’d be fine.

It was not fine.

I probably need to get a size 14 or possibly 16. Which are bordering on my mum’s sizes for clothes which freaks me out a bit. They truly will be mum jeans 😮

The struggle for us women, is that our hips and boobs throw things slightly out of wack som- yeah no, all the time. I do love my body and if we’re talking about body shapes then I have an hour glass figure, which in theory is lovely but when it comes to shopping then it’s a bit of a struggle. Slouchy t shirts ftw! May I just add that even though I’m going up in sizes, my weight is the same and if anything some parts of me have slimmed down.

I did freak out a little bit when I realised how my clothes sizes had changed and I’ve always been content as a size 10 because I thought that was average, at least that was what I was lead to believe. However a quick google search shows that the average dress size in the UK is currently 16, so why am I freaking out? I am still average, and I’m the happiest I have ever been with my body so really these numbers shouldn’t mean anything. Just a way for me to find the clothes that fit my body, not an identifying factor.

To add to my confusion further, apparently some magazines class anyone above size 12 as “plus size”, I mean they’re kidding right? I don’t really mind being called plus size but I’m not actually plus sized, I’m average sized as are many of my friends so if we’re considered plus sized then what are we saying about the women who actually classify as plus sized? It’s so unfair to throw an average sized woman onto the cover a magazine and applaud yourself for your poor excuse of plus sized representation.

Honestly, anyone else beginning to think magazines only exist to lower our self esteem sheesh….

Now, I really don’t know where I was going with this post and it turned into a bit of a rant but there we go! What are your thoughts on clothing companies and their wildly different sizes and magazines with their unrealistic expectations?

Until next time! 🙂

Source: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/fashion/london-fashion-week/the-average-size-in-the-uk-is-a-16-so-why-dont-we-see-that-on-th/ 

Donating my makeup!

So there is a lot of makeup I don’t use anymore or have never used but couldn’t return cos they had been opened. I have thought about selling them on depop or something but it felt like a bit too much effort if I’m being honest and I didn’t think anyone would even want them. So for a while they sat around my room just taking up space and I didn’t know what I could do but I heard from someone that you could donate your used, in good condition, makeup to women’s charities.

So I researched and I did in fact find somewhere to send my makeup! It’s a charity called Give and Makeup, they’re based in London. Started by Caroline Hirons, back in 2010 and now here I am talking about it!

So I started wandering around my room collecting makeup and other beauty items that I didn’t use and it turns out I had way more to give than I had originally thought.

Working our way from left to right and starting at the top, we have:

  • Two MUA liquid lipsticks that I never used once I had bought them because they were far too bright
  • A makeup revolution highlight I was given by a friend and then quickly realised I didn’t like either
  • A neutrogena oil free moisturiser that made my skin even oilier??
  • A V05 sea salt spray that was alright but I’ve found I don’t like the sea salt spray look on myself
  • Then we have all four of the foundations I own because they’re (respectively):
    • Too dark
    • Too pink toned
    • Bit pale
    • And waayyy too pale, never used it (bought it when I was a complete makeup noob)
    • Plus I don’t like the way any of these foundations (or just foundations in general) look or feel on my skin so I don’t exactly need them anymore
  • In the midst of these foundations I have an Avon dead sea mud mask I don’t really use
  • The new makeup revolution concealer I bought that’s way way too dark for me
  • And finally, a MUA eyeshadow palette that I’m not loving anymore

So, that’s everything I’m donating! I’ll be packaging these up and sending them off soon, I’d suggest you guys doing the same with your stuff! If you’re in the UK then I’d recommend that you check out their website as they have more information and guidelines! For example, pads and/or tampons! There’s a whole list of things you could donate!

I’ll also leave the addresses below (One for the UK and one for Wales) if you guys already have a selection of things to donate but you don’t know where to send them!

GIVE AND MAKEUP
PO BOX 855
LONDON
W4 4AW

Give and MakeUp c/o
Escentual.com
63-67 Wellfield Road
Cardiff
CF24 3PA

Until next time! 🙂