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~ A peek into my mind ~

An experience with catcalling

So remember in my first post where I said I’m not afraid to talk about the hush hush topics of life? Yeah here’s one of them.

Catcalling, one of the many delights us women face. Just keep in mind that this post is about ONE instance.

So, I got dressed for school and I was really happy with how I looked, more so than usual. I looked in the mirror and my first thought was “I look really good today!” Now my self-esteem isn’t horrendous but most days it’s more on the side of “eh it’ll do.”

As I was walking to school after my dad had dropped me off, I was outside for all of three minutes, in those three minutes two guys had honked their horns at me and the second made weird suggestive faces once he had gotten my attention. To which I rolled my eyes and went back to looking at my phone. Once I had crossed the road and gotten away from that creep, I began to feel uncomfortable. My previously positive thoughts about my looks were clouded with doubts.

Is my skirt too short?

Maybe I should cover my thighs with my bag…

Is anyone else looking at me funny?

And once I realised what was happening, I got angry. I tried to remind myself of how happy I felt when I looked in the mirror this morning.

And as if that wasn’t enough, while I was walking down after meeting my bf we walked past a bunch of builders. Now I’m not gonna lie, I was nervous. Maybe not nearly as much as if I was alone, but nervous nonetheless. Which is disgusting, that I can’t even walk to my own school in broad daylight without feeling self-conscious.

But I had faith, my boyfriend was right there so surely nothing would happen right? Nope. I walked through this group of builders with my boyfriend walking behind me, one of them was staring as I walked by and had the AUDACITY to tap my bf’s arm and make a suggestive face. THE FUCKING AUDACITY!!

Similar things have happened before but never so many in such a small space of time. All of this, from start to finish, probably happened in a 20 minute period?

To make matters worse, most guys don’t see what they’re doing as wrong. “Take it as a compliment” How about no. A compliment is when my friend tells me my hair looks nice, not when some low life creep honks his horn at me or when some guy old enough to be my dad no, be my granddad glues his eyes to my legs and won’t look away until I’m out of sight. Elders aren’t so wise when they think with their dicks.

Honestly, you don’t see lesbians staring open mouthed at other women. If they can be sexually attracted to women and still be a decent human being, I think men might just be able to manage it too.

Until next time 🙂

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Mug cake life

So this week I have been craving some cake, as you do. I do love baking but I currently don’t have much time or patience to be busting out all my baking equipment and making a full on cake, and I remembered hearing all about how mug cakes were so good as a quick fix. So I thought I’d give it a go, I was pretty sceptical I’m not gonna lie…

I googled a quick recipe that didn’t require egg, I wasn’t in the mood to be dealing with weirdly undercooked egg…I found a pretty simple recipe and I had basically all of the ingredients, I did however alter it a tad and it all worked out well! So my lil recipe is as follows:

Ingredients:

  • ~ 32g of Self raising flour
  • ¼ teaspoon of baking powder
  • 2 tablespoons of sugar
  • 1/8 of a teaspoon of salt
  • ~ 35ml of milk
  • 2 tablespoons of vegetable oil
  • 1 tablespoon of nutella (or anything else that you’d prefer to have melted at the centre of your cake)
  • *optional* whipped cream

Method:

  1. Measure and mix together all your dry ingredients
  2. Add milk and oil and mix until there are no more clumps
  3. Pour the batter into a mug of your choice, make sure there’s enough space for the cake to rise (I typically have half a mugful of batter)
  4. Drop your tablespoon of nutella into the middle, there’s no need to push it down
  5. Place your mug in the microwave and heat it for around 2 minutes (SEE NOTE)
  6. Take it out of the microwave, push a butter knife all the way through and if it’s all clean with no gloopy cake batter on it when you pull it put then your cake is done!
  7. Let it cool a bit and add your whipped cream if you would like!

NOTE: My microwave was 750 watts and I put it on medium heat and left my mug in there for three minutes and it came out perfectly, so alter accordingly and keep an eye on it if you’re not sure.

And voila! Should take you under 10 minutes, and you’ll have a delicious lil cake to satisfy your cravings!

Until next time 🙂

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I don’t use face wash

And my face is loving it!

Since I was about 12 I’ve been using various face washes, my acne phase properly started at 13 and didn’t really calm down until… well, until I stopped using face washes really. Going on the pill back in August helped a bit but I was still having regular breakouts.

I decided to switch to natural methods because a) I began to notice the same pattern with all the face washes I used, I would notice a reduction in my spots for the first few uses and then after that there would be no effect. I’d just be drying out my skin massively twice a day, not really a nice feeling. And b­­) Being south Asian and all, natural methods are the go to and it seemed like it was so obvious for me to give them a go!

For the most part of these past few months, I’ve been using rose water as my “face wash” I would spray a bit on my face and also onto a cotton pad and then just wipe it all off, along with all the dirt on my face. I’d of course then moisturise afterwards. The bonus was that I could get a bottle of rose water for as little as 70p! I have noticed a reduction in my spots but something that I’ve never had before is a reduction in oil, my skin has been considered oily for years. I couldn’t get through a school day without my skin turning into a grease ball. Now, I can get through the whole day and just be a tiny bit oily on my nose and that be it! Which makes sense as my skin is no longer being stripped of all its necessary oils on a daily basis.

I’ve now started experimenting with using honey as a face wash (literally just some honey from my kitchen!) and now using my rose water as a toner. I’ve been doing this for the past few weeks and I’ve had friends and family commenting on my lack of spots, and the spots that do pop up usually don’t last long and aren’t as inflamed as they used it be. I do really hate the smell and taste of honey but if it’s helping my skin clear up I’m sure I can tolerate it. Honey (the more raw the honey, the better it is btw) has the antibacterial and anti-inflammatory qualities necessary without the excessive drying tendencies of your standard foaming face wash. Usually cheaper too, so an all-round win!

Along with exfoliating about twice a week, that’s all I do to my face and it has improved massively!

Until next time 🙂

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My body image and me

Since I was about 6, I have been considered ‘chubby.’ I always had to wear clothes that weren’t for my age group. So at 6 I wore clothes that were for 7 or 8 year olds, even then it was a struggle. And my god did my family tease me. I don’t think I was that bothered by it as a kid, I was just really aware that I was fat. And that it was a bad thing. (It isn’t)

And then I reached 12 years old and since then my stomach has been my biggest insecurity. Literally… Along with other parts of my body, naturally. When I got changed I would do it so quickly and I wouldn’t stand in front of a mirror because I was afraid of what I’d see. That, my dear friends, was a big mistake. Because I can recommend nothing more highly that actually stopping and looking at yourself in the mirror while in your underwear (or naked??) to improve your self-esteem and perception of yourself. Why? Because you can see what your body actually looks like and hopefully realise it’s not as bad as you thought. Our brains naturally tend to go straight to the worst case scenario, mine definitely did. All those years I avoided my body, my brain was making awful assumptions and was making me seem so much worse than I actually was.

But I’ve learnt not to hate my stomach a much as I used to, I’m not sure what has come over me. I, of course, still have days where I’d rather the stomach pudge wasn’t there but it’s not as extreme as it used to be. I’ve embraced the pudge, to an extent. I think it’s because I decided I was going to focus on the parts of my body I do like. I like my legs and my boobs, my butt could use some work but we’ll get there eventually!

I’m still learning to love my body, but I’ve come a long way.

Until next time 🙂

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A Sixth former’s guide to relaxation

I can appreciate that it’s really difficult to set aside some time for yourself, when you have deadlines and work being thrown at you left, right and centre. However, I also know how very important it is to relax and take a step back from the hustle and bustle of life. It can be difficult to set aside a whole day so this guide is going to be for an evening, just a few hours of relaxation that you can squeeze in as per your schedule!

And so, I’m writing this post to help some of you busy people out. Very heavily influenced by how I allow myself to relax, naturally. So as it’s currently November, this guide is going to be more so for the colder nights when you just want to be cosy.

First: Get clean

Now the primary role of a bath/shower is of course to make you clean, but if done correctly they can also be very relaxing. I’m sure everyone and their mothers have heard about relaxing baths, bath bombs and how magical Lush is. But, how many have heard of relaxing showers? I mean I’m sure it’s not that rare but baths are usually more commonly associated with relaxation.

Anyway! For me getting clean is the first step, and as we no longer have a bath I kinda have to make do with my shower. Use products that make you feel good and smell really good, anything that makes you happy when you use it. Life is far too short to be using a shampoo you hate the smell of. And take your time, you may have to rush all your steps on any other day because you have all that work piling up, but for this instance just slow yourself down.

Second: Pyjamas  

You know, the spelling of pyjamas always confused me a bit, I’ll stick to calling them pjs.

Now I’m not saying you have to have those picture perfect matching pjs that you see in films, just anything that you can be cosy in. Something oversized is always fun, for example my “pjs” consist of four oversized men’s tshirts from primark that I’ve paired with their own specific set of leggings or loose pj bottoms. (The tshirts are £2-£3 and very very soft! 10/10 would recommend)

Third: Occupy yourself

Or don’t. Up to you!

I can’t just sit and do nothing for ages or I’ll start thinking about all the extra work I could be doing, which isn’t useful when I’m trying to relax. So I’d say do something that you enjoy that you don’t often get to. As I love to read and I don’t really get the chance usually, I will usually sit in bed and read a book. Pretty self-explanatory really! I also don’t get to watch many films, so that’s also something I like to do. Which requires less work than reading so I tend to lean towards watching a film when I’m feeling lazy.

And that’s all there is! My simple guide to allowing yourself to relax, there are only three steps but that’s because I think you’d rather not be having to do a million things when really all you want to do is relax!

Until next time 🙂

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Being selfish in the name of self love

Sometimes, you just need to step back, from the hustle of life and the stresses of other people. Now I don’t know about you guys, but I get asked for advice. Less so now because I literally talk to about five people about things that go deeper than how my weekend was. By choice mind you, I don’t know how I managed it but I’ve shrunken my circle of friends and I’m more than satisfied with it. But before, I’d get questions from people I barely knew, they’d spill their most personal stories to me and ask me what they should do. And I’d try and help but I’m no psychologist, there’s not doctor patient confidentiality here. I felt compelled to help, because “how rude would I be if I didn’t?”

And after a while, it started to wear me down. I didn’t want to talk to certain people because “oh what are they gonna dump on me today?” Our conversations just became about their struggles, sometimes their own faults and they were just making the same mistakes over and over again. I have very little patience as is so imagine having to deal with someone coming back to you with the same issue because they couldn’t be bothered to change their ways. It was exhausting, and I was at a point in my life where I was already barely keeping my head above the water, I can’t hold other people up too! I have a select few people who I would gladly help. No doubt about it. They get me and my limits, I appreciate that.

But it’s not selfish to look after yourself, it has been pushed onto us since we could talk that we must put others before ourselves and we must be ready to help them at any point. But when you think about that, how is that even anywhere near healthy? I mean sure you shouldn’t be self-obsessed, but there’s a huge difference between being self-obsessed and making sure that your basic needs are being met. Both physically and mentally mind you. I’m not saying don’t help people, I’m just telling you to be wary of when it gets too much for you and to be able to take a step back and not feel guilty about it.

Until next time 🙂

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Goals for my new blog

Blog goals 2017

I’ve started a new blog, now what? Now my dear readers, we start planning our goals. Things that will keep me motivated and wanting to keep blogging and pushing myself to do better.

I have finally started self hosting my blog, which has been a goal of mine but also a stepping stone to lead onto some of my other goals. When I first wrote out this post, I hadn’t started self hosting yet! Anyway, I’ve split into short term and long term goals.

Long terms goals:

One major long term goal of mine is to build a solid community of regular readers that I can interact with and that will enjoy my posts.

And of course the second is to be able to earn a decent amount of money from my blog, I don’t think a full time wage kinda thing is a realistic thing to aim for at this stage and at my age, but I’m not going to fully take it off the table. I’m slowly moving away from the idea that I’m blogging as a hobby, I want to make this into something.

Short term:

So, first up, I’d like to reach about 100 views this month, I’m not sure if I’m pushing it a little there seeing as I’ve only just started this blog but hey go big or go home, right?

Make my blog look more aesthetically pleasing (GCSE Product design  terminology whoop whoop!) A major issue with my last blog was that I couldn’t make it look the way I wanted it to and I’m aware that just starting fresh won’t change that, however it seemed like a better idea to start over than to struggle with over a year’s worth of not so great looking posts.

So what am I going to do to reach these goals? Because just stating your goals to the world won’t get you very far, once you’ve established them make sure you’ve planned out ways to help yourself reach those goals. So for me, to reach my short term goal of achieving 100 views, I’m going to try to stick to posting at least twice a week and for those (minimum) two posts to be of good quality. Alongside that, I’m going to try (emphasising, try) and use Pinterest better to bring more traffic to my blog while also using my other social media, of course, like Twitter and Instagram.

And for the better looking blog, I’m trying my best to take my own pictures but I may utilise the free stock photos that are available until I can my hands on a decent camera. My phone camera isn’t quite doing it as you may have noticed in my last post :/

Those are my current goals, I may revisit this later on and see what I have achieved.

Until next time 🙂

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To do lists & making them useful

So, how to be productive?

I’ll be the first to say that I’m rarely very productive, I get things that need to be done sorted but that’s about it. Every so often I’ll get this burst of inspiration and I’ll get through so much of my to do list and more! Which is amazing! But, it’s not really that useful when you’re only productive once every few days (or weeks :/)

Everyone has that burst of inspiration to do better at the start of the year, whether that be new years day or at the start of a new school year. But very few of us manage to stick to that new feeling for more than a few days.

I try to stay productive by being realistic about my abilities and prioritising. Which sounds so obvious but you’d be surprised how little people apply that to their day to day life.

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I thought I’d use my actual to do list from this half term holiday. So this is what my overall list was, for the whole week off:

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As you can see, I’ve highlighted the things I’ve done

Now, for those of you wondering I am not doing all three science A levels. (God no) I am actually doing an applied science BTEC which is equivalent to two A levels and then doing my psychology A2 along side that. (I’m staying in sixth form for an extra year, more on that another time) I suspiciously didn’t get any psych homework hmm…

Anyway, so for a long long list like this I’ll decide what needs more time and what needs to be done now. So my assignments I’ve been working on almost everyday because they’re quite big pieces of coursework and I can’t afford to leave them to the last minute. The little sheets, exam qs and graphs that need to be plotted I will do at least one of everyday until I’m done with them, they’re a warm up to working on an assignment for the next few hours. Just so that I can tick something off my list and be inspired, just long enough for me to trick myself into starting the heavy duty stuff.

But more specifically for daily to do lists, I try to write down a maximum of three things that I must get done that day, no excuses. And then below that I’ll write out a few things that I would like to do but there’s no harm in leaving them til tomorrow. This way I’m being realistic and getting things done, and feeling accomplished. Instead of writing a huge to do list everyday and never getting anything done because I’ve put unrealistic expectations on myself.

I hope this has been helpful!

Until next time 🙂

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A fresh start

Starting over is sometimes necessary but always scary.

I had another blog that some of you may know about, I’m sure a lot of you came to this blog from that one! So why did I start a new blog? I just wasn’t satisfied with it, I was making all these plans to monetise my blog but I realised that I couldn’t possibly do that when even I didn’t enjoy my own content!

I was stuck in a bit of a cycle of trying to improve my posts but ending up making them worse and then those new ones didn’t fit in with my old ones, it was a bit of a mess really! So I just felt like a fresh start was necessary. Now onto the introductions!

So for those of you who don’t who I am, and have decided to follow this brand new blog  of mine:

My name is Kirithika, I’m 17 and I live in England. And I’m not gonna lie, I do love tea. I want my blog to be a lifestyle blog, but of course that’s fairly vague so I’ll try and break it down a little so you’ll know what to expect from me. Seeing as I’m still in school, some of my posts will have something or other to do with school! I’ve started getting into baking so maybe there’ll be some of that just ~sprinkled~ in from time to time. I’m not super mega into makeup but I do like it so maybe expect some of that? It’ll all be affordable makeup seeing as I’m not about the spending £30 on an eye-shadow palette life, really do not have the funds for that! I also do love books but I don’t really write book reviews so yeah?

And aside from all of that, because really that’s what a lot of teen lifestyle blogs consist of, I’m going to branch out into more ~interesting topics~ such as sexuality, sex, mental health and all that other fun stuff that people will only whisper about. Because I don’t think any of those things should be considered shameful, and so I will talk about them shamelessly.

That’s some of what to expect but I don’t want to plan it all out too excessively because then I won’t really want to go along with it, if you get what I mean. I am currently doing blogtober on my old blog, so I will come back to this blog once I am completely done with that. November onwards! I cannot wait!! 😀

Until next time 🙂

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